NLP and Changework… Time for an Upgrade? Some Suggestions

Hi,

So I’m sitting there listening to Michael Breen explaining the Meta Model when he gets into an example of how he used the MM to help a guy who had panic attacks on the tube.

Great I think, I love real world examples. After going through some questioning Michael goes on to give the guy some strategies to do next time so he doesn’t have or can avoid to experience any panic attacks anymore. (ie: take water with him, draw pictures,… )

And this is the moment I jump up and say … what a bunch of crap, I can’t believe this ‘master’ NLP trainer is throwing this at people.. :-)

Now before you all go defensive, let me explain soooooo you could relax and open up for maybe new idea …

Michael Breen’s explanation and example on how to utilize the MM/NLP in some short conversation is obviously great and I would suggest everyone who wants to learn more about the MM and wants to really start using it far beyond how most NLPers do these days, to get on the NLP Times platinum audio series where Michael Breen explains it in depth.

Now

I’m only gonna use Michaels example to point something out here:

The suggestions given where there to help the guy avoid having a panic attack, to help him use another strategy instead getting overwhelmed by being on the tube.

Great you think?

I don’t think so, … next time the guy got on the tube with his gf, forgot his scratchbook and water.. and got another panic attack..

Makes sense not? … well that happens when you do ‘change work’ only on a symptom level. You haven’t dealt with the real structure of the problem. And no I’m not talking about submodalities here.

Which is the way NLPers seem to do it over and over again. And you see it in the resources they use, the level they work on, the suggestions they give, the time frame where they ‘see’ the problem, …

I’ve pointed it out tens of times in different threads on different topics…

‘from music in my head, to the hypnotist, secondary gain, to I don’t know what to say, motivation, …’

Now lets go to another example:

Kim McFarland came up with a neat elicitation strategy she calls "unaffirmations".

It goes like this:

You (if you’re doing self change), or the person you’re working with says to themselves an affirmation and then shuts up and notices if there are feelings or emotions that debunks this affirmation.

ie: ‘I’m great’, ‘I’m good with girls’, ‘I’m great at sex’, ‘I’m perfect’ ‘I’m comfortable in the tube’ ‘I’m good at speaking’ …

Then shut up and notice what happens.

OK.. got it?

A great violin player used this ‘unaffirmation’ thingy the other day:

"I like myself:" What’s there to like? You’re a loser. That makes me feel:sad, lonely, ashamed.

Looks good hé, – something you can work with right?

Well here’s how you could do much better, faster and easier.

The guy comes up with 3 things, and in the meanwhile he’s getting further away from the real issue.

Now what he didn’t do here is to shut up… and notice what’s happening in his body.

He doesn’t notice what’s happening in the gap between the statement and what he "thinks".

"OH there’s a gap in between where there are lots of things going on, … OHHH":?

… you know this already

thinking leads to feeling

well here’s a suggestion… how about noticing the step before…

feeling > thinking > …

… every problem strategy starts with a K-…

Really?

Every problem?

Well :-)

So for the Practioner here who’s paying attention…

1. we pointed out what to look for

2. next step is to know where and when to look for it

… you know where you’re going …

So… as Eric says … you can plan ahead… in your chess game.

Where a good chess player thinks 10 steps ahead a great chess player only thinks about the next step… but it’s gonna be the right one.

…Now it’s time to go finish my coffee.

Have fun

Bart

NLP and Changework… Time for an Upgrade? Some Suggestions

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